"Gifts" by Peter Davison

When I was a child, a heartstruck neighbor died

On her birthday. Dying was strange enough,

But what a way to choose to spend your birthday,

I thought, and what sort of a gift was this?

From time to time, people have done it since--

Dying in the environs of a celebration

As though they had picked out the day themselves.

Perhaps they had, one way or another,

Prayed for something to happen, and prayed wrong.

Sophocles, when old enough to die,

Suspected prayer and entered a caveat:

'Zeus, act kindly whether or not I pray;

And, though I plead for it, turn harm away.'

I keep a wary silence on my birthdays,

Make up no lists at Christmas, lie low

When asked what I really want. How should I know?

Best ask for gifts as though I had none coming.