Wow, I worked my ass off this weekend. We're talking sweat dripping down my back. One of the comments in the guestbook today was, "(Epiph) provided excellent service. And he works hard!!" I felt bad today about how much I was sweating, but I was a damn good waiter. I pulled in $180 spread over two shifts this weekend - not too shabby.
Afterwards, it was off to a baby shower. I received the invite a few weeks ago, and I asked the organizer if guys were supposed to go. She said that it wasn't a baby shower just for the mother, but also for the father, and that they want everyone to come. Because otherwise why would they have sent it to me. So I went. A lot of good friends were there.
But I had no idea to bring a gift. And it's not like a wedding, where you can just ignore the gift table and get a gift for the bride and groom later because you have a year. There's actually a gift opening ceremony at a baby shower. I felt like there was a spotlight on me for not bringing one. I played with the baby someone else brought to make it seem like I was less of a jackass. When the baby started crying, I moved on to the dog. See, I had no idea to bring a gift. This is one reason I really need a woman in my life.
I had an alright time, though. I had a couple glasses of wine to help me get to bed nice and early tonight. I'm nodding off as I type this, so that's a good thing.
My dad told me afterwards that it was alright for me not to bring a gift, because they eschewed the rules already by inviting males to a baby shower, so all the rules are off. Thanks, Dad.
The mother, who I've taught with for the last three years, told me to have a good day tomorrow, that she's living through me vicariously as I start the school year. I'm likewise living through she and Joe vicariously as they enter parenthood.
Rebecca put her arm around me today and said, "You know, Epiph, you and I are part of a dying breed now. Everyone's getting married or having kids."
"Bue we have more fun," I said.
But I didn't mean it. Nights like this make me feel lucky for all the friends I have but they also make me feel lonely for all I don't have.
Tonight's not the night of a whiny blog entry, though. It's the eve of the first day of school! I still remember the first first day eve, at a friend's backyard barbecue. There was one holdover from that one at the shindig tonight, and we reminisced. She remembered what I had brought to eat - Baked Beans - that night. I specifically remembered a veteran teacher saying she still gets nervous the night before the first day of school, and she never can sleep. She probably never waited tables on a hectic Sunday brunch the day before the first day of school, though. I should have no problem sleeping tonight. In fact, that's my cue.
I am nervous, though. A good nervous, I assure you.
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8 comments:
The idea of you going to a baby shower without a gift makes me laugh. :) Though I do admit I don't know where your head is; it was a baby SHOWER, like a bridal shower or a wedding shower. Gifts are the whole point! And your dad is wrong; most baby showers include the fathers now. Equality comes on all sides, scary as it is for you males.
How many bridal showers or wedding showers do you think I've been to? (None) Aren't those pretty much for females, too? I don't even know what a wedding shower is, to be honest.
Showers are unisex now, especially for the under 40 set. I'm actually surprised that you haven't previously been invited to one before. Don't worry about not bringinf a gift. Send something once the baby is born. You could even send the mother a nice gift certificate to a book store. I do that with friends and it's almost always a big hit. Again, it's no big deal. Now you'll know for next time.
Thanks, cgg. That's what I was figuring, that I'd send something once the kid was born.
Wedding shower = shower for both bride & groom. Usually has a kitchen/bath or outdoors theme (ie, where all the gifts are for the themed area). I know it was embarassing for you, but it's endearing. And, lesson learned!
Good luck!
I have never heard of men at a baby showere either.
There is nothing like a friendly get together to make you realize how lonely you really are. I know all about it.
it's water under the bridge. none of my guy friends would have known what to do either! how would you know that we "shower" each other with gifts? hey probably made a mistake if they didn't mention the registry in the invitation - because if you knew they were registered for gifts you would have been smart enough to put two and two together.
you can always ship a gift...but i like the idea of a gift when the baby is born too.
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